"I'm happy for you but please don't keep updating me. It reminds me of how much money I wasted. I did my duty by finding him a good home, but it was nothing but pain for me to have had him"
Of between 20 - 25 comments (not including mine or the original poster's) there were only about two other people that didn't dump all over the previous owner.
I can relate though. Its painful when you have a horse and have dreams and hopes for him only to have it not work out. Remember Quinn?
(in fact if I was a different person
he probably would have ended up as a steak)I sold him to a friend of a friend and had a couple messages to let me know he settled in well and they really liked him. That was nice to hear and I was glad that he had found a place with good people.
Then through another friend I'd hear about how AWESOME he was and even kids could ride him and blah blah blah.
Yeah that stung. It made me feel like a big fat failure. I totally doubted whether I should even own horses and was considering quitting horses all together.
(other than Cessa,
who would live out her days as a pasture ornament)So obviously I didn't really want to hear anymore of those updates.
I did talk to the buyer again, she let me know the only reason the kids could ride him is that it was a total 'no pressure' situation for Quinn. Anytime anyone got on him and wanted him to "work" or had any expectations besides toodling along in the pasture on a total loose rein, mindlessly wandering along well then Quinn would revert to his former badass which had caused me to sell him.
So I get it. Its nice to know that the horse you've sold is in a new home doing well. To be updated after that and reminded of what didn't work out for you, the lost dreams, the lost time, the lost money (let's be honest, for most of us money IS a factor!)... well that can hurt.
Oh, and as for Quinn... I recently messaged his buyer to see how he's doing. He's pretty much living his dream life now as a pasture ornament.